Sunday, July 3, 2011
Someone give him a quarter...
...so he can buy a clue!!! Ahhh, seriously, there's a guy who just doesn't get that he will NEVER be anything more than a friend to me. I met him about 3 months ago at a party. He was sitting at a table with friends of mine and I joined in the conversation. He moved to come sit by me and we started talking. He's cute, but I'm not attracted to him. I can't really say why. He looks like my type, but I don't know. There's just no chemistry. I look at him and I don't feel any desire or passion.
At the party, he asked if I'd want to hang out sometime. I told him that would be nice, but that I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. He agreed that friends only worked best. I gave him my number and he texted me the next day. He asked me to see a movie and I met him there. When we got our seats, he put up the arm rest and put his hand on my thigh. I laughed it off and pushed his hand away. During the movie, he tried to hold my hand. Not wanting to make a scene, I pulled my hand away and folded my hands in my lap.
After the movie, I was pissed. "What were you doing in there?" I angrily asked. "What? I was just trying to be romantic with you," he answered. I was shocked. How could he be so dumb? I had told him I didn't want a boyfriend. We both agreed we should just be friends. Why was he trying to make it into something more? We stood outside his car and talked.
"Listen, I just want to be friends. I told you this at the party. I just got out of a relationship and I want to be single," I said to him. He nodded as I spoke. "I understand, Myli," he softly said. He hugged me and he apologized. As I drove away, I felt a little mean for what I had said, but realized I needed to make sure we were on the same page.
We hung out a few more times and things were good. We were just friends. No inappropriate touching. I was glad I put my foot down because he was a fun guy to hang out with!
Then 2 weeks ago, I get a text from him asking me if I want to see the midnight showing of "Transformers 3". I quickly texted back "YES!" and we made plans to meet up. The day before the movie, he texts me and tells me that he can't keep hiding his feelings and that he likes me and wants to date me. When I read the text, I threw my phone down on my bed and screamed. "What the fuck is wrong with him!?" I yelled. I was so upset, that I was shaking. I couldn't even compose a reply text. When I didn't text back, he called me. I contemplated not answering the phone, but I picked it up.
The conversation is not worth repeating here. I was a mean, ugly bitch in the things I said to him. I told him that from Day 1, I told him I wanted to be friends. I never lead him on. I never made him believe he had a chance with me. I always paid for my own movie tickets, food, etc when we hung out. I was so frustrated that I was a lot meaner than I needed to be. He again apologized and asked if I'd still consider being his friend. He said he was 100% clear about how I felt and that he would be happy to be just friends. I considered saying "hell no", but he is a nice guy and we did have fun when I thought we were just hanging out as friends, so I said "Yes".
I woke up yesterday morning to a text from him. "Good morning, my dear Myli. I love you more today than I did the day we met. Please reconsider and go on a date with me." I had to re-read the text 3 times because I really thought I was dreaming. Could he really be that stupid? I wrote out a whole long text telling him what an idiot he was and to never call or text me again. But in the end, I deleted it. It was obvious that no matter what I said, he would never get it. I have no idea what makes a guy want a girl who has told him over and over that she doesn't want to date him. He sent me a total of 5 text messages yesterday and I deleted them all. Oh and I did finally get to see "Transformers 3" and with a very cute guy. But that's another story, for another time :)