Just Friends

 
Yes, I believe that men and women can be just friends.  I know some people will beg to differ, but I can just speak from my experiences.  I have friends whom I've known for 5+ years and we have never hooked up, kissed, or held hands.  One of my good friends is white, but I am not attracted to him.  When I tell people this, they find it hard to believe me.  Their common response is, "...but don't you like white guys?"  Yes, I do.  But not all white guys.  I still need the attraction.  My friend is tall, fit, has blue eyes, and a great smile.  Would most people assume I'm attracted to him?  Yes, probably.  I see girls checking him out every time we hang out.  And yes, I know he's handsome.  But still, when I see him, I think of him as a brother, not a lover.

I am very thankful for the friends I have.  This particular friend has been there for me thru all the good and bad moments in my life.  He has never caused me any drama.  I told him that if only we had that sexual chemistry, we would probably be dating and someday married.  If only life were that easy!

How Is It Not Racist? (email response)

 
I got an email from someone asking me "Why do you think you're not racist, when you so clearly state that you like white boys?" And here's my answer...I never said I only like white boys.  It's about attraction.  When I wake up in the morning, I know I like men.  I don't question if I like women instead.  It's just how I feel inside.  I know my attraction is to men.  It's the same for white boys.  I see a group of guys and I'm typically attracted to the white guy.  But I have had crushes and dated other races.

In high school, my boyfriend was a mix of Filipino and Japanese.  In college, my boyfriend was Mexican, Filipino, and Chinese.  I have since dated a Hispanic and African American guy.  But the majority have been white.

I am open minded and if I saw a guy I was attracted to and wanted to get to know better, I wouldn't care what ethnic background he was.  I'd be interested in getting to know more about him and what kind of person he is.  Attraction and chemistry is hard to predict, so I believe in going with my gut and seeing where it leads me.  And if he happens to have blue eyes, that'd be nice :)